Trouble moving forward after losing a loved one

[FredOnline]

@Cogan It's unfortunate that the covid vaccine became so political. I feel like it's turned an entire generation of people against the medical establishment because many of us feel like we were lied to for political gain while we collectively sacrificed our loved ones. Between my parents and my in-laws, my father passed, my mother's cancer came back (somehow she's beat it into remission but it took it's toll), my father-in-law's lukemia has turbo charged and he's now very frail, and only my mother-in-law seems to be relatively okay. Of course she's the one who took a fall and broke her kneecap in half! She's on the mend now but it's just been one thing after another. Oh well, that's life though and none of us get out of here alive.

 

[Bella38]

Losing someone close is very hard to go through. Most don’t realize the magnitude of sorrow until they directly experience losing a close one. I lost my son 5 years ago and I got to tell you the grief doesn’t get any better. However what I have learned is - you take day by day and if at the moment it hits you - you are allowed and entitled to grieve.. let it out! Once you get it out, pick yourself up and get yourself together no matter how hard it is. As days go on and months turn into years you will learn to just deal with the day and do the best you can. You will go through bad times and sometimes it may be a day or two. You’re allowed to grieve and take day by day - just remember that!!!

 

[Deanzer]

I’d like to give the BIGGEST condolences to my great friend @pinkflower after her loss of her darling mother.
@pinkflower i know your hardly on here now but I’m SURE you’ve made many special friends like myself.
If you do read this your always in my thoughts and prayers and I’m sure many other members who know your circumstances feel exactly as I do!.
Keep holding on to the many loving moments you had with your dear dear mother
Love DeanzerXxX

 

[Deanzer]

@Bullet888 I’ve given all this advise to @pinkflower to reach out for grievance groups ect and not to struggle on her own.
@pinkflower has been a member here for a good while now and has made MANY friends on PR.
Now she feels guilty that when her mums health was deteriorating she was posting here?.
I’ve said that her darling mother depended solely on her and not to feel guilty as she done everything for her mother and her ill health was nothing she could help with other than be there for her EVERY day doing all she could.
It’ll obviously take time for her to grieve her mother and times a healer and she should stop blaming herself for her mothers illness which obviously was no fault of poor pinkflower…
Deanzer….

 

[Bullet888]

Apologies is such a sensitive subject I was just trying to offer some nonjudgemental love I think most of us on here are a little bit broken more than others it's always very hard to understand somebody situation even if you know them very well all the best to everybody

 

[Deanzer]

Apologies is such a sensitive subject I was just trying to offer some nonjudgemental love I think most of us on here are a little bit broken more than others it's always very hard to understand somebody situation even if you know them very well all the best to everybody

Thanks @Bullet888 thats what makes the difference from here a DBGF I feel most member REALLY have true empathy for fellow members
Deanzer….

 

[Deanzer]

@Bullet888 Your 100% on the fact most members are a bit “broke” on this site!.
However it’s better than living that dull “goodie good shoes” life that is the norm in life!.
I love to meet characters with real lifetime stories to tell.
I’m in my early 50s and I’ve met so many people with hearts of gold who for whatever reason have fell into addiction often meaning they HAVE to source they’re meds from unconventional sources let’s say .
Deanzer….

 

[NewarkCap]

I realize I'm asking for answers to impossible questions but any advice on returning to normalcy in difficult times would be appreciated.

The best advice I ever heard on this subject was to try and honor the loved one by living life purposely and remember they would like you to be happy. That said its going to be tough. Just remember its perfectly normal to grieve. Try not to let it consume you.

 

[totts]

Ah grief. Yup. I, like so many on here, have lost close family members. My father died when I was 16. After many years and many losses, I had to go for some support. Something a bereavement councillor said resonated for some reason. Grief is the big marble in a jar. The marble never gets smaller, but over time, the jar gets bigger. We learn to live on, find joy again (eventually) but boy, is it tough.

 

[Tripple 0]

@HostToast God will guide you so it will be okay. Trust